7 reasons your relationship is falling apart!

It is admirable to believe in the special strength of your relationship and even wiser to realize that no, you won’t magically stumble upon a fairytale romance. If you currently find yourself in an affair that’s weak, cracked or on the verge of collapse, the following can be the key factors behind it :

1. Self ruckus – We often consider a relationship as a flight from our personal plight. We forget to unknot the tangles of our personal life and jump in another’s life carrying all of it with us. Until and unless we display enough courage to calm down the ruckus that’s happening inside us, it will continue to grow and will eventually corrode our bonds. It is mandatory to learn loving yourself before promising love to another person.

2. Poor communication – Good communication is the glue of any relationship. But if you fall short to communicate well, it’s going to cost you heavy. You need to be both a good speaker and a patient listener in order to save your relationship from drowning midway. Try to speak out your problems instead of burying them to later explode. Simultaneously, adopt the habit of listening to what your partner expects from you and from the relationship. Overlapping arguments is a major cause of misunderstanding, fight and break up.

3. Playing blame game – Blaming your partner for every awful incident that’s taking or have taken place in your relationship is another major reason for breakups. Take charge of your life as well as of your misdeeds. Try not to find favourable reasons for your mistakes. Whether or not brought about for a good reason, a mistake will always be a mistake. Be matured enough to use talking as a tool to solve issues and not vengeance. After all, the person you’re seeking revenge from is the person you love. Never forget that. Most importantly, never play the blame game just for the sake of ending up a relationship. This is no way less than cheating. If you don’t want to proceed with your partner then confess immediately and leave.

4. Stagnation – It is natural to get lost into each other when you’re madly in love. But it is also important to recognize and retrospect yourself. Do not stagnate yourself by neglecting your life goals. Remember, stagnation is decay. It will not only decay your quality of life but will also decay your relationship. And nobody wants to stay in a rotten relationship. So it is better to grow in the relationship. What on earth can be more romantic than to grow with your beloved?

5. Copy/Paste – Social media and movies have built up a larger than life image of romanticism. We often scroll through videos where a boyfriend is seemed to present bongga gifts to his girlfriend or proposes her in a filmy style in front of a hundred people. These videos leave a lousy impact on our thought process and extravagantly increases our expectations from our partner. Eventually, we try to copy from those unrealistic videos and paste it in our relationship. There is no harm in presenting bongga gifts to your loved one as long as it suits your pocket. But it is also recommended not to forget the smaller things that waters your liaison such as walking hand on hand; cooking, reading or working out together.

6. Cold and humdrum – Every liaison emanates warmth for the first few years and we find every other thing intriguing about our partner. But as days pass we start losing both the interest and the heat and eventually repel from each other. As we share our everyday events with our spouse, there comes a time when we fall short of words leading to a humdrum affair. The phenomenon of an old romantic couple is not fanciful but is very much existent which is only possible by keeping the fire lit in the relationship. Try to regain the lost spice in bed. The game of seduction always adds a little zest to our relationships. You can also opt for playing board games or watching series to spend time together when falling short of words.

7. Lack of respect – Compassion and respect are the two primary things that a person deserves from his/her partner. When respect for the other person leaps out from the window, the relationship automatically falls apart. Get into the habit of acknowledging your partner for being with you in rough times and for putting his/her best in the relationship. If you can’t regain the respect, it might be worth reconsidering if you’re still in love.

One thing what you should never forget is that there is nothing called a perfect relationship. Even the happiest of couples have occasional arguments, disagreements and temporary breakups. That’s life!